Brian：(01-8-29) 12:51 how are u doing.(任何时候见到任何人都可以说的一句话)
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 12:51 i am fine, how r u.
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 12:53 fine too, actually you are the first one who come up with a response online from overseas(很多人不知道该怎样用英语表述"你是我在网上遇见的第一个外国朋友"这一句话。), so what's your time(你们那里的时间) now, here in China, it's 12:53 am.
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 12:54 1:07 am
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 12:55 so good morning to u and in case(假如) i don't see u, good afternoon, good evening and good night(假如我们以后不能碰上，先祝你每天早上，下午，晚上都好) ,you always stay in the night so late on the net like this?
　　 Brain的建议：如果想在开始赢得别人的好感，一定要自己多说两句恭维对方的话，这样对话就容易进行下去
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 12:57 yes because i am off from work
　　 如何进一步深入话题
　　 Brain的要点：建议从对方来自何方，从事何种职业入手
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 12:58 that's good, where r u and what are u doing up here now? (你一定要学会这句话)
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 12:59 I am in the united states and using the my computer.
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 13:00 u must work in the government
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:00 I do, but how did u know?(是呀，你怎么知道的)
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 13:00 well, everything u have told me is technically correct, but it's no use to anyone.(虽然从理论上说你告诉我都是正确的，但一点用也没有)
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:01 u must work in business(你一定是商人)
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 13:01 I do, how did u know?
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:02 well, u don't know where I am, what I am doing here, but u still expect me to help u know that, u are the same before we met。
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 13:02 :>, Albright, we're even(我们扯平了) now, what is your work exactly, if there is any chance for u to be interested telling me that? (学会这句地道的美国话，能显示你的水平)
　　 Brain的要点：一般人不会在交谈的开始就把自己的职业告诉对方
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:02 i work in the university, i am teachers aide(助手，相当于assistant).
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 13:02 o, i see, that is a career i have been pursuing for a long time(这也是我理想中的职业，故意奉承:)。再例如：如果你问老外，Where are you from？不管他回答那个国家，你一定要说"That's a beautiful country."), and how is that going on with you.
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:02 it is going great.
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 13:04 i can imagine that, how long have you been working today?
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:05 i didn't work today i am off work til sept we get the summers off.(放假了，只到9月才开学)
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 13:06 oh, i am too stupid to forget that, we here in China have the summer holidays too.
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:06 that's right.
　　 Brain的小结：学会如何询问对方是保持继续交谈的前提，让我们回顾一下，请记住以下几句经典询问句：
　　 where r u and what are u doing up here now?
　　 what is your work exactly, if there is any chance for u to be interested telling me that?
　　 how long have you been working today？
　　 下一步怎么办！
　　 (Brain的建议：如果实在不知道怎么谈，就与对方谈中国，中国在西方人眼中是有着5000年文化历史的文明古国，充满神秘色彩，但很多外国人对中国并不了解，你谈中国，他一定会感谢兴趣的。)
　　 继续……
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 13:08 u live in the school or in your own apartment you rent?(住在学校里还是租的房子)
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:08 i live in apt and rent. what do you do? where do you live?(什么事情都是相互的，你要是能比较好的引起对方的谈话兴趣，她也会反过来询问你的一些情况的，这不，这个Nikky开始问我了！)
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 13:11 i work for one of the largest companies in China, the marketing dept(我在市场部，简洁明了介绍自己工作地点和职业）
　　Brain建议：(如果有机会，试着聊一聊各自的衣食住行，这是每个人必须面对的问题，也许在某些方面，大家都有相同经历，也是彼此极能产生共鸣的地方。)
　　 例如：先谈租房问题，打工族都面临的问题。
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:34 do u live in apt? (有没有人被这个缩写词弄糊涂？一次在上海举办的韩国2001年IT智能小区展示博览会上我就被apt弄糊涂了，后来才知道是"apartment")
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 13:36 u bet(口语习惯用法，表示说的很对，下次遇见老外，碰到她说的对或者你想表示认可的话，就用"u bet"), but totally a lodger and i got to pay the rent , in shanghai, to find somewhere good enough is harder than ever(太困难了)!
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:36 it is hard here too, rent is so very high(纽约房租也很贵的，这句话以我们学过的语法来看，肯定会被挑毛病的，"so"和"very"连用是什么意思？可是没有办法，这可是从地地道道的老外嘴里吐出来的。)
　　 Brian (01-8-29) 13:38 the rent here in shanghai used to be very cheap(以前房租很便宜的), but now it's hard to rent a apt with 20squre meter for 800RMB, put in that will be around 100$
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:40 wow here it is a couple of hundreds sometimes thousands to rent.
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 13:40 I can still recall my terrible experience when I first try to find a apt for myself, exhausted almost each day after a long time search and went back to the poor little restaurant I stay, for really a long time I just don't want to do anything and look impassivelysintosthe mirror to dream if only I was a local shanghainese(上海人), maybe things will be better.
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:40 cool, it's lucky u've overcome it, u know, this kind of things happened very frequently in united states too.
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 13:41 so you got to pay the rent too? but on one side , with the apt, you can cook for yourself , right? that will be cheaper than to eating out and will save you a lot of money (在外面吃费钱)and to eat the food u cook alone is wonderful enough.
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:42 yes true but i do like to go out and eat on occasion(偶尔).
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 13:43 that's understandable for a bad cook(可能是橱艺不咋的吧).
　　 Brian的小结：外国人对吃一般都比较感兴趣，特别是中国的吃法，要和他们老外在吃的方面有所切磋的话，你不一定要记得很多个菜名。说实话，每次在大型的外事场合总会遇到陪老外吃饭的情况，很多所谓的翻译预先紧张的不得不把一个个菜名背的滚瓜烂熟，生怕到时候遇到翻不出来的东西却不一定派的上用场。我不这样做，因为很多宾馆的菜名除非把厨子喊来，否则根本不知道是用什么做的。我就曾经遇到过"白鹤晾翅"实际上就是"豆腐加酸白菜"，所以我只需要简单对他们说"enjoy your dinner, u know, I am asked by my superior to give u what hell those courses(这些菜) are made of, I know u have experienced many occasions and been tired of telling those names, so just enjoy it, and if u think it's tasting, please let me know!"这句话一说，老外一定会觉得你不一样。很多老外吃的场合见的很多，已经厌烦了半瓶子水的翻译在一旁词不达意介绍菜名，所以你还是让他先吃吧。
　　Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:44 u kidding me, i love to cook want to learn how to cook proper Chinese food(我想知道中国菜怎么烧的)
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 13:46 you get it! Chinese food is really tasting probably kind of the best food in the world, U know, there is an increasing number of Yankees(美国人) who came all the way to China just want to find a woman to marry with, for the good cuisine tradition, i just can not imagine how to live a lifetime with hamburger(我不敢想象你们美国人怎么能就着汉堡包吃一辈子).
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:49 ah yes do u eat hamburger?
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 13:50 every once in a while(不常吃)。KFC or Mc donald ,which one is more popular in the states? (在美国，肯德基和麦当劳那个更受欢迎？这个问题可以随便拿个老外来练习)
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:52 mc donalds
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 13:52 why, just cuz(因为) Americans like beef than chicken?personally i like KFC, it's more tasting(可口，好味道) and some sort of Chinese people's style(符合中国人的饮食习惯), seems like we Chinese prefer the chickens .
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:54 i don't know i don't like either too much myself(我两个都不爱吃，外国人好象都不喜欢吃这种高热量的junk food)
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 13:55 then what u like, u do not like hamburgers ,how about the rice ,do u eat rice in your daily life? we, the regular Chinese's main food(那你们吃米么)
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 13:58 i LOVE rice
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 13:59 i am a good cook and my cuisine capability(烹调手艺) is really good
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:00 what do u cook well? tell me a dish
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 14:01 a bunch of things:Chinese Tofu(豆腐), vinegar fish(糖醋鱼), and some short ribs(小排)(这些常见的中国菜英文说法最好记住)。
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:03 how do u make vinegar fish
　　 Brian：01-8-29 14:05 it's really sophisticated to tell you that on the net, we get the different fishes and different seasonings(调料), so even tell you exact the way i make , maybe you will bring up with a different one(鱼和调料都不同，即使告诉你了，你也做不出我这味来。实际上我做的vinegar fish最难吃)
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:07 it sounds good though(听起来就已经不错了)
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 14:09 Yup (表示肯定，相当于Yes)
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:10 i would love to visit your country one day so much to learn
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 14:11 u mean it？(你说真的么)
　　 Nikky：(01-8-29) 14:11 yeah, and what do u do in your occasional time? (平时都干些啥)(经典询问句，这句话我们也可用随时拿来问对方)
　　 Brian：(01-8-29) 14:11 well, I like movies so much and bought the movie DVDs and I really loved them and I kept them in my bedroom, and when I get really, really depressed, and I couldn't find anybody to talk to, I took the movies out and watch…..(我喜欢看电影，非常喜欢，当我难过郁闷，找不到别人和我说话时，我就看DVD。寂寞经典自白，向每一个可能见到的老外说出这几句话，一定要连贯！)
　　 Brian的小结： 上面的一段寂寞独白实际上是我从另一外国朋友那抄袭来的，我几乎是一个字不差的把它说给Nikky听，因为我有那位外国朋友很喜欢看电影，幸好我也有相同的兴趣。但之所以这段话给我留下很深的原因并不是这个，原因是她说这段话给我听的时候，露出的牙齿很漂亮，给我的印象非常深，我又让她pardon了一遍。
　　 这个小节不多，但好句子有不少：
　　 KFC or Mc donald ,which one is more popular in the states?
　　 I don't like either too much myself. (再也找不到比这句话更地道的句子了)
　　 and what do u do in your occasional time?